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Venus in Scorpio

As someone with their Venus in Scorpio, you take love very seriously. While others might be fine with a fling here or there, you’re always in it for the long haul. You are one of the most dedicated Venus signs in the zodiac, and you enjoy the deep, emotional connection that comes with being in a committed relationship. This doesn’t mean it’s easy for you to open yourself up to people. You are extremely sceptical of others at first, and believe actions speak louder than words. If someone does end up toying with your emotions, they will end up on the receiving end of your stinger. Your intuition and penetrating mind make it easy for you to see past facades and understand who people really are. You are the private investigator of the zodiac, seeking to uncover every last detail, and secret, about someone. Yes, this is partly because you want to see if they are who they say they are, but you also want to learn what makes them tick so you know how to nurture them once you do get closer. Your Scorpio Venus may compel you to search for everyone else’s secrets, but your need for privacy makes you unwilling to share your own.

Venus in Scorpio people attract others with their intensity and willingness to commit. They have a strong and concentrated manner which suggests their feelings run deep. Their actions in love tend to promise deep commitment and sexual pleasure, even if they are not telling you this directly. Their appeal lies in their focus on you, and their dedication. Venus in Scorpio seems fearless when it comes to intimacy. Potential lovers get the feeling that Venus in Scorpio will never stray, that they are intensely loyal to the one they love. They possess you, and somehow make it seem attractive to be possessed. Pleasing Venus in this position involves demonstrating your complete commitment and loyalty to them. Appreciate their guts when it comes to love and intimacy, they’re proud of their courage in these matters. If you can, and they’re deserving, relinquish some of the control in the relationship. Let them feel they own you, without taking it to extremes. Remember, though, that some Venus in Scorpio lovers can and will take advantage of you on a subtle level, if only to keep you all to themselves. Let them have their secrets and their silences.

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in Scorpio men and women give you their complete attention. These people are very focused on their partners. Depending on your personality, you may find this unnerving or entirely flattering. They have a strong need to control their partner, although this won’t be immediately apparent, and they may not ever admit to this. Their body-and-soul love and commitment can be so intense that it eclipses fun and makes loving them a very heavy experience. Their emotion and intensity may seem overdone to those looking for a more light-hearted relationship. These people take things to extremes, and can be very provocative. Although they want to explore all of your nooks and crannies, they won’t always be forthcoming with their own. When you’ve upset these lovers, you’ll know it. Depending on the moment, Venus in Scorpio will shoot you one of the most piercing glares around, or totally blow up. Whichever style they choose, a slighted Scorpio lover is not a pretty sight. These people can be jealous of all of your attachments, but few will admit it. They’re not afraid of being underhanded in matters of the heart, and they are experts at cutting through all the fluff and seeing you for what you are. Still, you may find their conclusions about you seem skewed and mistrustful.

The raw passion and power of Scorpio coupled with the romantic nature of Venus creates an aura of mystery that other people can’t help but be drawn to. You might find yourself in the sights of quite a few admirers! However, you have very high standards for potential mates, and won’t allow someone to get close to you until they’ve proven their loyalty and trustworthiness. This makes you appear distant or disinterested at first, but you’re simply protecting the sensitivity Scorpio is known for. Once someone has shown you that it’s OK to let your guard down, you are as devoted as they come. The main traits of Venus in Scorpio are magnetic, emotional, dedicated, powerful, sensitive, loyal, private, intuitive and mysterious. Venus in Scorpio likes to corrupt. It likes to feast on something that it finds pleasure in until they are sick with it. When these people want something, it wants to sink into it and it wants to pull you along for the ride. Venus in Scorpio doesn’t care if you can breathe or not. Oxygen? Why would you want oxygen when you could find yourself smothered quite safely in a Venus in Scorpio’s arms.

Deeply passionate relations are desired with Venus in Scorpio. Superficial flirtations and contacts do not satisfy, as they yearn for “body and soul” contact with someone special–contact that breaks the taboos, that is extreme and intense, and that is unforgettable. This is a highly emotional position for Venus. It is a passionate, sensual, and intense energy. Their relationships are immensely important to them, and they may even feel that relationships consume them. In fact, they tend to want to be consumed by them! Although the basic drive is toward intense closeness, blind faith in their partners is extremely hard. Fears of being too vulnerable or of giving up their own power to others is strong. Scorpio is an “all or nothing” energy, and relationships tend to be somewhat of a roller-coaster ride as a result. Disdain for mediocrity and superficiality can compel them to create crises in order to feel alive and vital.

Venus in Scorpio experience love with their whole body and soul

They can be hard to figure out or to get close to because they can go from one extreme of emotion to the next quite quickly. They sometimes appear very sensitive and yielding, and other times completely closed off, for example. Their tastes in art, clothing, furnishings, and music tend to be dark, surreal, gothic, passionate. Most of their true character lies beneath the surface, and what they choose to put on display may even be deceptive. Fashion trends mean little to them. Loving Venus in Scorpio is like loving a creature who wants desperately to, but feels as though they must refrain from, eating you alive. Like any Mars ruled Venus, Venus in Scorpio is physical. It doesn’t care so much about sweet words and presents. When Venus in Scorpio wants you, it wants you in the flesh. It wants to hold you down, to taste you, and it wants to take your weight under its own. Venus in Scorpio wants to trap you. The condition of being afflicted with Venus in Scorpio is the condition of being afflicted with desire. Desire is terrifying. If desire were not terrifying, we wouldn’t have emotions such as envy or jealousy or regret. Desire is sometimes so terrifying that it is easier to corrupt something that we so desperately want than it is to feel the weight of our desire.

Loving a Venus in Scorpio is sometimes about loving the suffering that is love. It’s about loving the physical pining because missing a Venus in Scorpio isn’t about wanting a phone call or about wanting a text message. It’s about wanting presence, scent, and weight. Scorpio Venuses like to toy with jealousy. Jealousy is a scary kind of thing, something that could threaten a relationship if you allowed it to. For Venus in Scorpio, jealousy is a toy. They play with it because they’re terrified of it. They eroticize it. They play with cuckoldry. They experiment with scenarios in which jealousy can feel less like danger and more like arousal. There is a great deal of Venus in Scorpio people who are polyamorous, not because dating more than one people comes easily but because it is hard. Venus in Scorpio sometimes looks at a choice and chooses to go down the harder, more terrifying route. They do this because choosing terror means that they can unchosen it. Sometimes, people complain about Venus in Scorpio tests. If Venus in Scorpio tests is because they, like all debilitated Venuses, don’t exactly know how to hunt. If a Venus in Aries moves suddenly and abruptly, Venus in Scorpio doesn’t move at all. They prefer to set a trap and to simply wait it out. If Venus in Scorpio asks hard questions, it isn’t because there are any wrong answers. It’s because they are observing you. They notice what you do and what you say.

Loving a Venus in Scorpio is about loving observation. Venus in Scorpio notices everything. They don’t get scammed and, if they do, they knew they would get scammed before they did. It’s just that their desire, at that moment, became bigger than their suspicion. Loving a Venus in Scorpio is about realizing that, in loving them, that their desire became bigger than their suspicion. It’s about realizing the weight and the mass of a desire so secret that it shakes the ground when it becomes visible. Venus in Scorpio hides sometimes not because they don’t trust you but because they’re afraid that, in loving you, that they could lose themselves. Sometimes, Venus in Scorpio is comical. There so much terror around desire. Desire is so big and overwhelming. And then, what do they need? Ask them to list it out. It’s comfort, it’s hugs, it’s consistent kisses, and it is good mornings and good nights.

Very often, Venus in Scorpio doesn’t ask for very much at all. Like most debilitated Venus people, Venus in Scorpio tends to see love itself as so overwhelming that exploration of that love can seldom feel accessible. Venus in Scorpio tends to short-change themselves. They tend to be people who pride themselves on not asking for much even if they want much, much more. Loving a Venus in Scorpio is about loving the tease. It’s about giving a little, just enough to whet the appetite, because it’s overwhelming to give a lot all at once. It’s about loving the hunger of desire and it’s about noticing all of the things that could possibly make desire feel a little more like comfort. Loving Venus in Scorpio is about sinking, gracefully and graciously, into something that can feed you or eat you.

Venus in Scorpio have got animal magnetism and know when to turn it on to get attention. You check out any potential mate with great care, but hold your cards close the vest when the tables are turned, at least at first. To win your heart, there must be some element of surrender on the part of your mate. Once chosen, a Scorpio in Love is intensely bound, body and soul, to the object of his or her affections. Scorpio is the sign that has the urge to conjoin in every way possible, emotional, spiritual, and sexual. Your caution in all relationships has to do with your heightened instincts with regard to this merging. You're looking for a complete union of souls and will shy from lovers who want to keep things light and casual.

There's always a risk in merging, and that's why Scorpio's intensity comes with a dangerous mystique. What will happen? In love, Scorpio is an all or nothing sign and all relationships are potentially life-changing. If your Venus has hard aspects, you may experience true ordeals in love life that may feel as if you're dying and being reborn. The best partner for you is someone who is strong both mentally, emotionally, and sexually. You need someone who won't easily bend to your will and will be inspired rather than dismayed by the amped-up sexuality that's part and parcel of who you are. (A partner without a healthy libido will likely fall by the wayside soon enough.)

The Venus in Scorpio downside is that you are something of a natural detective, but your inquisitive nature can be taken to an extreme. Your desire to exert control over friends can become oppressive if you're jealous of their other connections, so you must take care to keep your "inner stalker" in check and guard against over possessiveness. It's hard for you to forgive, so it's best to stick with people who don't play games (easier said than done, of course). In your darkest times, you may obsess over lovers and ex-lovers and come up with strategies to get even with those you feel did you wrong. Things go wrong when you attempt to control or manipulate your partner to keep them in line. If you're not vigilant, your love life could become a dark tale of neurosis, paranoia, lusty addiction, and vengeance. 

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